The Agwuocha Family: 2025

October 29, 2025

*diagnosed in 2016 and resharing my story to spread awareness.

Yesterday I shared about my pathology results as well as the never before seen moments right after my double mastectomy and immediate DIEP FLAP reconstruction.

One thing I wanted to share with you today is something that happened while I was in surgery.

It just so happened that on this very day, December 12, 2016, Amara, our little girl, would have her 1st grade Christmas concert at school.

First I was sooo sad to miss this moment. As you know when it comes to my kids, I don't miss! Then of course while I was in serious surgery I had to send my husband off to be with Amara for her concert.

Can you imagine the amount of strength it would take to know that you are leaving the hospital where your wife is in a 13 hour long surgery to switch gears and be super hero dad. My babies they knew I was having surgery but you can see on their face that they very much did not understand the weight of this event in my life.

He made it to the concert and then dropped the kids back off to make it back in time to see me wake up.

When I woke up from surgery that was one of the first things I wanted to know. I wanted to know how the concert was.

I have to give it up to my husband for not only being super dad but he was super husband as well.

I told you, he carried the weight of the world on his shoulders. That is what a caretaker of a cancer patient does. He did it so well with so much grace and love. He had the heart of a servant!

Thank you for being the most incredible man! I love you deeply and honestly hold this one moment very close to my heart because he had to wear many hats on this day and had so much heaviness happening all around him and yet, he kept it together. What a man!

A huge shoutout as well to my tribe.. those in the schedule pictured who cared for my babies that day. I fully entrusted them to you and it went seamlessly. Thank you!!

October 28, 2025

#day28 #BreastCancerAwarenessMonth #MyStory : Surgery Day (Part 1)

#day28

#BreastCancerAwarenessMonth

*diagnosed in 2016. Resharing my story to spread awareness.

*Welcome to the most difficult part of my story. I start off with some basic educational information but if you get to the end you will see where the surgery story begins and I am just getting started.

Yesterday I left you with the moments before I went into surgery. This was not your everyday double mastectomy. This was a Double Mastectomy with immediate DIEP FLAP reconstruction. The duration of this surgery would take over 13 hours to complete. First my oncological breast surgeon would do the double mastectomy. With that I had all breast tissue removed. I was basically left with the layer of skin that once held my breast tissue. I also had 6 axillary sentinel lymph nodes removed which is standard in this type of surgery. Everything was sent off to pathology to first see if everything bit of cancer was gone and to see if my lymph nodes had any sign of cancer cells. The results of this would determine future treatment.

The good news was that about 95% of my cancer was completely gone. The remaining amount of cancer that remained was contained to a milk duct which meant all of my "invasive" cancer was reported to be gone and my "non-invasive" responded to the chemo.

This was really great news.

I have now gone down a rabbit trail while writing this post as I am now knee deep in my chart reading all of my records and dissecting every word written.

I have now requested a complete release of my records because surprisingly all of my notes for my surgery minus pathology results are missing from my chart.

I want to read every single detail. I want to know what happened during those 13 hours. I do recall reading these notes a few years back and am now really puzzled as to why they are buried deep into the archives. I will keep ya'll posted on if I do recover those records.

Information and data is really important when it comes to being your best advocate. Read the charts, study the results and ask the questions. That has always been my mode of operation. Don't be afraid to look into things and do your research! It all matters!

More to this story tomorrow and .. I can guarantee.. this story of mine is going to go well past October! I'm really just getting started.

Thank you to all who have been following along and reading. It is really of great encouragement to me and I really appreciate it more than you know!

This part of my story is probably the most traumatic part to relive to tell to you. I will break it up into several days so get ready. I am really pouring my heart out these next few days.

The picture you see here is the moment they allowed my husband back into the room after my 13 hour long surgery. Monday December 12, 2016 @ 9:36pm . My mom and sister in-law were there too standing on the other side of me.